Feelings, am I right?
I'm in therapy, so once a week I talk to a professional thought and feeling person about my thoughts and feelings. There is some really basic shit that I have not had correct for most of my life. I've been operating from some incorrect assumptions, but I've been lucky to have the opportunity to learn and grow and keep most of the people in my life who need to be there.
But, I have lost some folks. And I don't mean they died, I mean there is a not insubstantial chunk of folks in this world who are like, yeah no ert thanks. Similarly, there is a real number of people who I have shown the hand and said I cannot even with you please step off.
Most of it has come down to how I or they express negative feelings. Truly! It's really down to that all the way down the line. I can't think of a single instance where a connection was broken by anything but being uncool when expressing one of these things:
Jealousy - Doubt - Envy - Frustration - Despair - Sadness - Guilt - Grief - Fear - Shame - Anger
You know the culprits.